Are you really getting the respect you deserve?

Extract from my daily horoscope today:

Take this sobering energy to evaluate your emotions and take a good honest look at the relationship you have with others. Are you really getting the respect you deserve? Perhaps you need to inform certain people that their words or actions towards you are not ok.

U think i never meh? U think tell liao got diff arh? Tell liao hor, and realise tt person doesnt even bother is much worst... Ppl r insensitive n selfish... No use one lah... Nobody reviews their own actions one lah... They think thay they are right mah...

Most common return phrase: I am like this one lor, all these yrs... If u cannot accept then too bad!

They had forgotten e whole pt of open communication and making things work in e 1st place...

Jus like e.g. A is stubborn, B is not... (Not drafting fr anything, jus a simple example)

Somehow, after gettin together... Slowly, B finds A more n more unreasonable n stubborn and B cannot take it, coz B had been sobbing or bothered over it silently for a long time... SO B decided to clarify some things wif A... But A immediately got very angry and said, "Well, i am like this one lor! From young i am like tt wat! If you cannot take it, then i think we shd break up, we are not meant to be."

Some ppl think that to find a so called perfect bf/gf, tt person got to click extremely well... But i can safely say... Theres no such thing... No matter how compatible, theres bound to be areas where somehow it doesnt work... Especially when u become closer, and together longer... Along the way, theres bound to be hiccups...

But these kind of hiccups are not to tell u tt u shd break up, rather, it is some things tt u haf to iron out, and make it work, so tt u 2 can move on longer into e future... Then, u'll find u 2 work so well together, tt nothings going to spoil or create tension between u 2 generally... Becoz, u 2 are open to each other, and tt if problems arises, u 2 are going to be honest and things are goin to be solved...

Same thing wif family n frenships...

Hiccups call for honest and open communications, not to quarrel but to sort things out and find if there is a middle point for compromise or solutions etc... And then, when tt happens, ur relationships (whichever kind) will be honest n true n deems to go a longer way...

Strong friendships will only happen, after going thru all the shit, and working things wif the other person... We all haf weaknesses one wat, we are not saints...

Some ppl like to say, :If u love u, u shd accept the way i am!" Or "If u truly treat me as ur best buddy, u shd accept the way i am, coz i am like tt!"...

Bullshit!

Seriously, these kind of ppl... Not worth ur time one lah... Chances are theres no happy endings...

Some ppl tell me, "I cannot change, i am like tt!"... I mean come on lah, everyone can change... Not asking u to change into another person wat... Lets say u got bad temper, isnt it better to try to change tt? And when u do, not only u gain more respect from ur gf/bf, other ppl like ur frenz, family n colleagues will also get along better wif u as well...

So, rather than continue being a pain in e ass... Y not do something about it, rather than continue hurting others, and hoping to magically bump into ppl, or a social circle who can accept u for being a pain in e ass... Tis is jus plainly selfish on ur part... And guess wat, u jus missed out all e possible genuine relationships u shd haf but let go... Those tt tried to work things out wif u, but u dissed them off entirely...

I knoe to change takes a hell of a time... Even for myself... But i think most imptly, u mus be open to acceptance in e 1st place n show tt u r genuinely sincere in trying to make things work... Coz u seriously wish to be frenz with e person in e long run, or to settle wif e person eventually...

If not, seriously... I think theres no point in trying to accomodate ur pain in e ass attitude, which cannot work for me... When i knoe in ur whole life, u will not even bother to try to make things work...

Be it u r a bf, best fren, close fren, buddy, colleague, family, etc...

Then again, most ppl never look at their own weakness... If they noe they r insensitive... They will say its part of their growing up... Or they are like tt... But never will they say, "yah, i knoe i am insensitive, i'll try to work on it." or "I guess its my fault as well, i will try to tis tt tis tt..." or "I noe u r trying to make it work. Actually, its not ur fault, I think i didnt try hard enough."

Oh well...